Friday, April 11, 2014

There Is No Such Thing As An Accidental Coffee: Art

On a recent trip to Oklahoma City, I posted a Facebook status that read "In the hotel lobby looking to have an accidental coffee" Of course if you are "looking" to have coffee, it's not accidental when it happens. But when you aren't looking for it..and you meet someone like Art..it's not accidental either.

Our 12 year old daughter, Mette, has an amazing gifting with animals.  She has named members of single breed flocks of chickens individually...and she can tell you which one is which.  I am reminded of a time when she was just barely 3 years old. We had a big problem with feral cats. Of course, they weren't a problem to her because she could pick them all up...but there were too many..16 to be exact.  Through our reaching out, we received help from an organization called Kittico.  They helped us with their trap, neuter and release program. 

On trapping day, a random black cat showed up on our property and volunteered itself in one of the traps.  Wanting to be certain to fix all of the problems, we loaded the mystery cat up with the others and began the trek to the drop off location. All cats were successfully sterilized and some of the wilder ones, treated for their various illnesses and fighting wounds.  Shortly before making the trip to Dallas to pick them up, we received a phone call.  Our tireless, enthusiastic volunteer helper was calling to tell us that the mystery black cat had managed to escape it's carrier during the transport and was lost. She was so upset, and we reassured her that it wasn't even one of "our" cats anyway and would not be missed. When  we arrived at the volunteers house, tiny little Mette..went from cage..to cage..to cage..to cage..sticking her brown little pigtails in all sixteen. She stops...looks at us...and declares "The other black one is missing." As we stood there with our mouths gaping and the poor volunteer in tears...we were seeing part of Mette's gift revealed. Now on with the story...

9 years later...Mette is now a passionate, emerging dog trainer.  If she meets a dog one time, he or she is cataloged in Mette's brain for life.  It's name, personality, drive...everything..branded in her memory.  About a year and a half ago, she helped care for and train some aspiring search and rescue German Shepard puppies: Razor, Missy and Lucy.  Razor is still in our life, but Missy and Lucy have gone on to work with other families.

A couple of weeks ago, I dropped Mette off at the park, in the care of big brother, Kristoffer, to train one of her dogs. I notice a beautiful, young German Shepard lying down in the shade. I made a mental note of what a nice looking and well cared for dog she was....as I drove away.

A few minutes later..my phone is ringing..it's Mette.  "Mom. Did you see that German Shepard at the park?" I replied "Yes!" Mette exclaims "I KNOW that dog is Lucy!" I encouraged her, under the watchful eye of her brother. to go over and strike up a conversation with the owner. Which she did.

Enter....Art.  Unbeknownst to her, Art already knew of Mette through dog circles, and treated her as if he had met a celebrity. He held her words and opinions about Lucy (now named Siri) in such high esteem. To say they "hit it off" is a wild understatement. Art describes his experience in the day that Mette approached him as "Like the sun was coming towards me!" They were instant friends, destined to meet at the park this day. And more "accidental" meetings would occur. Mette came home yesterday bubbling over about her conversations with Art..."You HAVE to meet Him!" she declared to us both. And meet him, we would.


We had begun planning, last weekend, to schedule a weekly brainstorming/writing date. Thursday nights at Starbucks after Mette's park training was the appointed time slot. We got the kids situated, grabbed our tablet and notebooks, and headed out.  As I ordered our Vanilla Macchiatos in a "real glass", Kristoffer sat down with our spread of notebooks and such at the big long farm table that sits just inside the front door of "our Starbucks".  We normally choose the "comfy chairs" but we were here to work. We had a vision, a plan...we were on a mission. Not to be bothered by the woman working at the other end of the table, we began our session...and, I'm certain, quickly scared her away with our enthusiasm.  About 20 minutes into our work..a man comes through the door and sits down in the spot that the woman left.  I looked across the table at him and noticed that he had arthritis in his hands..an identifying trait that Mette had noticed in Art. As I lifted my eyes from the table I saw out the window a van with a German Shepard sitting inside. Astounded...I looked at him and I said "What is your name?" "Art" he replied. And I watched his face come to life as I said "We are Mette's parents!"

For the next almost 3 hours, we listened to Art's story, and what a story it is! We laughed and we cried and we sat in amazement that God had brought us together in this moment. For 24 years, Art worked as a professional in PGA golf. He traveled and worked for the PGA  meeting  lots of interesting people. He met the love of his life in an airport and experienced a love that most people will never find in their lifetime. But tragically, before they could be married, she was killed in a terrible car accident. Over the next many years, his broken heart transferred his brokenness to the rest of his body and he suffers from a dibilitating auto immune disease. Unable to work, struggling with identifying as "disabled"..through the cost of his illness and medications..he now lives in his van with his service dog Siri (Lucy).  He's an aspiring photographer, closet writer and a park bench counselor..with a story to tell..that he has been holding in his heart for a long time. It's the kind of story that people will really connect with..a story of love, and loss, struggle and carrying on. A  story of healing..that isn't even finished yet. We left Starbucks committed to helping him tell his story.  Stay tuned..greater things are yet to come.




Monday, February 17, 2014

Beautiful Estelle

When I first met Estelle, I saw a timeless beauty that radiated from her.  One of those women who wears time like a diamond necklace.Estelle is normally in my life for a couple of hours on Sunday, but I interact with her maybe 5 minutes a week.  I wanted to know her on a deeper level. I wanted to know how she managed to weather life and retain such a radiant glow inside and out. 

I assumed from the onset that Estelle must have had a very easy life. I remember as a young girl, I went with my parents to  visit a couple who had been going through some very rough times.  The woman looked terrible.  She had deep, deep lines under her eyes, her skin was rough, and her hair frazzled and worn out. I asked my mom "Why does she look like that?" and she answered "She's had a rough life."  I suppose that I deposited that "truth" deep within myself. To this day, or until now maybe, I believed that going through hard times makes you look worn.  I worried that if I risked too much, if I loved too hard, if I really put myself out there and completely failed...that it would be visible on my face. 

At my coffee meeting with Estelle, I discovered some things.  Estelle, was born in 1940, but it is very obvious within minutes of getting to know her, that she does not see herself as an "older" person.  Estelle is a life long learner, who taught herself how to use Twitter from its inception.  Not only does she love growing organic tomatoes; she can out hashtag  any 12 year old who cut their teeth on a mobile device.  Estelle, is simply...fascinating!

The most important thing I dicovered about Estelle, is not that hers has been an easy life. But that her deep faith and very tangible relationship with God has given her the grace to continue on and to come through big challenges with a timeless elegance and beauty that has come from leaning heavily on this deep relationship with Him to ease her burdens.    Estelle lives an energetic and purpose filled life, driven by her desire to give hope to others that they can overcome any obstacle in their life, with God's help. The only lines she wears on her face are the reflections of God's smiling on a well lived life spent leaning firmly on Him.

The coffee was strong and bold....so was the company.

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Nevermind, I will find someone like you. Choosing.

I expected this post to be about my first cup of coffee in this project, but I find myself thinking a lot about who I will choose and why I will choose them. I started with one parameter "must be someone I don't know",  and almost immediately it grew into "someone I don't know or someone I want to know better"...then I added "must be passionate about something". I had more volunteers than I anticipated, and I've realized there isn't time in a year to get to everyone who I want to put on the list.

Admittedly, I am intrigued by the total stranger qualification. So much so, that I find myself browsing professional networking sites to find people that look interesting to me. I realized quickly, that I'm favoring certain "types" of people. I am already discriminating and I've only just begun. I am finding I am more interested in attractive people and people who are interested in the things I like, people with cool profile pictures or well written bio's. 

 I think it's human nature to be drawn to those who are like us, but what am I missing by surrounding myself with people just like me? What opportunities to break down barriers and cross over cultural lines are passing me by? I still intend to fill this year with people who are interesting to me, but I am already planning a second project of coffee with the unlikely choices. Now THAT ONE...that one might actually be SOMETHING!

Monday, February 10, 2014

Fuel Up

Ours is a busy life...filled with projects and plans; And we use it as an excuse to hide. In our culture where we are ever connected, yet completely disconnected; Hiding can be somewhat of a normal response.

I am  fueled by ideas and my husband fuels my fire like no other. There is NOTHING in the world I would rather do than sit across from another human being, coffee in hand, and exchange thoughts and ideas.  Just the idea of having ideas stirs my insides like a coffee grinder. 

So why do I hide?  Why am I so constantly "busy" that I don't make time for what fuels me? Why do I share my coffee with Facebook and Pinterest instead of getting face to face to fuel my fire? 

I'm setting out to intentionally come out from my hiding. To meet some new people this year and to go deeper with a few amazing people already within my circle. My husband has agreed to join me in my adventure. So come along and meet them too. Follow along with us, if you will, maybe you will find some fuel for your fire as well.